List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for.
These are in no particular order. Also, 10 is WAY too many, so I'm going to try for 5 and see if I even get that far.
1- For being kind. Not necessarily "nice" all the time - but for being fair, nonjudgemental, honest, accepting, and loving to ALL people.
2- I want my kids to remember me as a good mom. Maybe not always their favorite person, because I will do whatever it takes to protect them, which will inevitably mean I make them mad. But I want to raise them in a way so they will be all of the things I mentioned in #1...
3- For being a good friend. I don't have a lot of close friends - I trust an extremely limited number of people and that tiny number has gotten even smaller recently - but my best friends are THE BEST. They support me, stand by me, and make me a better person. I want to be a great friend back to them.
4- ... Yep, probably not making it to 5. =)
This is the end of my 30 Things journey... I skipped some days because I didn't like the question or sometimes didn't like/want to talk about my answer to the question. Now the real question is - where is this blog going from here?
Tuesday, October 23, 2012
Friday, October 12, 2012
30 Things (28)
What is your love language?
First, let me just say that I LOVE the book and the idea of the 5 Love Languages. I read it at MNU in my marriage and family class and it's one of the things I definitely took and applied outside of the classroom. It's definitely not just applicable to romantic relationships - I've found a lot of use in discovering love languages of my friends, coworkers, and basically anyone you spend time with.
If you aren't familiar with the love languages, they are words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, physical touch, and acts of service. I'll just say that it is not hard to make me feel loved. Some people think it's hard to please me... but it's really not. I love love. I love making other people feel loved and it is nice to feel that in return.
I have a little bit of all of the love languages in me - but quality time and physical touch are tied for my primary "love language." (I took a quiz about it a few weeks ago!) Don't get me wrong, I like getting gifts - especially if it's something that someone put a lot of thought into. Words of affirmation are nice, but I've found that words without action are more harmful than love-inspiring. Acts of service... eh. I really do love serving others, but this is just not something that makes me feel loved.
So - quality time. This, for me, means doing just about anything that is engaged and involved with the other person. It could even be watching TV, if it's something we both enjoy and can talk about. Mostly it means talking - lots and lots of talking, asking questions, listening to the other person, laughing, etc. As far as physical touch is concerned - this one was kinda surprising to me. I don't typically enjoy touch - there are really only a few people who I want "in my bubble" - but once I started thinking about it, it made more sense. I want the touch only on my terms. I show love by touching, too - my friends, family - through hugs, putting an arm around them, pats on the back, etc. The physical touch really applies to very few people, in certain situations - you're probably gonna get punched if you just come up and try to hug me. Fair warning.
First, let me just say that I LOVE the book and the idea of the 5 Love Languages. I read it at MNU in my marriage and family class and it's one of the things I definitely took and applied outside of the classroom. It's definitely not just applicable to romantic relationships - I've found a lot of use in discovering love languages of my friends, coworkers, and basically anyone you spend time with.
If you aren't familiar with the love languages, they are words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, physical touch, and acts of service. I'll just say that it is not hard to make me feel loved. Some people think it's hard to please me... but it's really not. I love love. I love making other people feel loved and it is nice to feel that in return.
I have a little bit of all of the love languages in me - but quality time and physical touch are tied for my primary "love language." (I took a quiz about it a few weeks ago!) Don't get me wrong, I like getting gifts - especially if it's something that someone put a lot of thought into. Words of affirmation are nice, but I've found that words without action are more harmful than love-inspiring. Acts of service... eh. I really do love serving others, but this is just not something that makes me feel loved.
So - quality time. This, for me, means doing just about anything that is engaged and involved with the other person. It could even be watching TV, if it's something we both enjoy and can talk about. Mostly it means talking - lots and lots of talking, asking questions, listening to the other person, laughing, etc. As far as physical touch is concerned - this one was kinda surprising to me. I don't typically enjoy touch - there are really only a few people who I want "in my bubble" - but once I started thinking about it, it made more sense. I want the touch only on my terms. I show love by touching, too - my friends, family - through hugs, putting an arm around them, pats on the back, etc. The physical touch really applies to very few people, in certain situations - you're probably gonna get punched if you just come up and try to hug me. Fair warning.
30 Things (27)
What is your favorite part of your body and why?
I would have to say my favorite part of my body is my arms. I like hugging and arms are pretty necessary for that. (I should clarify and say I like hugging certain people. I do not like random hug attacks, hugging people I don't really know, etc. Gross.) My arms have held and rocked lots of babies/children - kids I've babysat over the years, my cousins, my nieces and nephew, friends' babies, and most importantly, Raegan and Jaxson.
I would have to say my favorite part of my body is my arms. I like hugging and arms are pretty necessary for that. (I should clarify and say I like hugging certain people. I do not like random hug attacks, hugging people I don't really know, etc. Gross.) My arms have held and rocked lots of babies/children - kids I've babysat over the years, my cousins, my nieces and nephew, friends' babies, and most importantly, Raegan and Jaxson.
Tuesday, October 9, 2012
30 Day (26)
What popular notion do you think the world has wrong?
The most "wrong" thing I can think of in modern society is that most people think they have to voice their opinions about everything and feel like they have the right to be listened to. Yes, everyone, me included - hell, me especially sometimes - likes to voice their opinions. I have a LOT of opinions on a variety of subjects, but even I, with my loudmouth, think-I'm-right-all-the-time attitude, know that most of the time, nobody gives two shits what I'm saying. And I'm fine with that. It's these people who butt into someone's personal life, inserting their opinions about one's lifestyle choices, friends, actions, thoughts, etc. that drive me completely crazy. Then, as if it's not bad enough that the person is "up in one's business" - they have the audacity to be upset when one does not listen to one word they're saying, doesn't take their advice, or gets mad because the person is nosy/rude/out of line. Here's an idea - stay out of my business. :)
This is more plainly seen in cases like the 9/11 attacks and other acts of violence like that. One person or group gets an idea and when things don't go as planned... bad things happen. I just don't understand how it's so hard to leave people be - to love who they want, live how they want, make their own decisions, quit judging, and just be kind. Have your opinions, thoughts, convictions, beliefs - but share them nicely, be respectful, do it with love.
Rant over. :)
The most "wrong" thing I can think of in modern society is that most people think they have to voice their opinions about everything and feel like they have the right to be listened to. Yes, everyone, me included - hell, me especially sometimes - likes to voice their opinions. I have a LOT of opinions on a variety of subjects, but even I, with my loudmouth, think-I'm-right-all-the-time attitude, know that most of the time, nobody gives two shits what I'm saying. And I'm fine with that. It's these people who butt into someone's personal life, inserting their opinions about one's lifestyle choices, friends, actions, thoughts, etc. that drive me completely crazy. Then, as if it's not bad enough that the person is "up in one's business" - they have the audacity to be upset when one does not listen to one word they're saying, doesn't take their advice, or gets mad because the person is nosy/rude/out of line. Here's an idea - stay out of my business. :)
This is more plainly seen in cases like the 9/11 attacks and other acts of violence like that. One person or group gets an idea and when things don't go as planned... bad things happen. I just don't understand how it's so hard to leave people be - to love who they want, live how they want, make their own decisions, quit judging, and just be kind. Have your opinions, thoughts, convictions, beliefs - but share them nicely, be respectful, do it with love.
Rant over. :)
Monday, October 1, 2012
30 Days (25)
Skipping 24, because it's my blog and I'll do what I want!
Day 25: If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
I would want to eat with Mother Teresa. Growing up Catholic, I obviously heard a lot about her and the endless work she did for people. The more I read about her, read the things she said, I've realized her love is about much more than one religion or one church. She recognized God's love for all people, whether their lives, morals, beliefs, etc. were in line with hers - definitely something everyone could learn from. I don't think it would matter what we eat - I'd just hope it was something that didn't make my stomach hurt. I'd be way more interested in the conversation.
Day 25: If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
I would want to eat with Mother Teresa. Growing up Catholic, I obviously heard a lot about her and the endless work she did for people. The more I read about her, read the things she said, I've realized her love is about much more than one religion or one church. She recognized God's love for all people, whether their lives, morals, beliefs, etc. were in line with hers - definitely something everyone could learn from. I don't think it would matter what we eat - I'd just hope it was something that didn't make my stomach hurt. I'd be way more interested in the conversation.
"There is only one God and He is God to all; therefore it is important that everyone is seen as equal before God. I've always said we should help a Hindu become a better Hindu, a Muslim become a better Muslim, a Catholic become a better Catholic. We believe our work should be our example to people."
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